If you're a first time Solas blog reader, be sure to catch up on the preparations of designer Kara Kurcz's 90-day Fashion Detox by scrolling down to the January 22nd blog!
And now, The Curse of the Closet...
There is nothing worse than having a cursed closet. I swear, I clean out the bad spirits of my closet every spring, but come the following winter there are demons lurking in every nook and cranny. So what is a cursed closet, you may ask? Well, it is a closet that puts out negative energy— it literally is working against you and your self-image. It emits thoughts of failure and guilt and can easily trigger anxiety. If you are following along with my exercises, you most likely discovered a few things about your closet from last week’s blog. Today we are just going to tackle questions 1-3 and do a few simple exercises that will help our closet become healthier.
1.) How many items in your closet still have the tags on them?
If the answer was none, then you can move on to the next item on this list. If the answer was 2 or more listen up. You have one of 3 things going on. You are either
A. A Compulsive Shopper (which we briefly touched on a few weeks back),
B. An Impulse Buyer, or
C. The Procrastinating Fashionista. This is the young lady who buys things she will be able to wear "someday," either when she loses weight, gets a new haircut, or finds the perfect event. The Procrastinating Fashionista has a million excuses for why she is in denial of her closet.
Why are the three of these things a HUGE problem? Well, it’s simple. They make you want to hide from your closet, and when you ignore your closet, you are denying yourself a chance to express your inner beauty. When we buy things and feel guilty, we tend to hide them in the back of the closet, or in a place where we don’t have to look at our “mistake” everyday. If you are a Compulsive Buyer you probably know the dreadful feeling of seeing all those shirts lined up in different colors, with most of them still tagged. You are probably embarrassed and a little shameful. When I went through my compulsive stage, I hid my closet from people, which directly affected my self-esteem, how I viewed money and the world around me. The Procrastinating Fashionista does a huge number on her self worth, every morning she is looking at a pair of pants or a dress that stares back at her and says, “Haha, you can’t fit into me!” Rarely do I find that this type of closet actually inspires my friends to lose weight or change their lives. It is just a constant reminder of what you are NOT, instead of what you ARE... which is AMAZING no matter what shape you are in physically, financially or emotionally. This is no different than when you buy an outfit for a special day. If that day is an event in 3 weeks, it makes sense. But if you have a fantastic pair of pants hanging in your closet just waiting for a “special” day, you are basically telling the universe, “I am not special enough to wear this today, but someday maybe I will be.” Every time you open that closet you are staring at a negative message: “Haha! You nerd! You aren’t cool enough to wear me yet!”
There is a lot to be done, but for this week, all I want you to do is take everything with tags on it OUT of your closet, unless you will wear it in the immediate future.
2.) Is your closet color-coded?
If you answered, NO move on. If you answered YES, let’s chat.
Listen, I am all for the idea of neat and orderly. I believe that organization brings success, reduces anxiety and gives a sense of clarity. However, you have to decide if the motivation behind your closet is healthy. Like I said, our closet represents what is going on with us inside. Again there are several reasons you may have an EXTREMELY organized closet. The most common is control. If you are the type of person who freaks out when a picture frame has been moved slightly left on the mantle, I am guessing your highly organized closet gives you a false sense of serenity. I am not here to judge you. In fact, I could care less if for the rest of your life your living room remains spotless with every knickknack in place— that’s between you and your roomie. But your closet needs to be liberated. Why? Because you are most likely spending way too much time analyzing if your maroon pants should sit with the purple family or the red. Instead you should be focusing on how hot maroon makes your green eyes look! You need to start thinking of yourself as a canvas, and every morning when you open your closet there lie your paints and brushes. You can’t look at your closet as something you need to “control.” Especially for type A people, a closet needs to be an expressive outlet. Eventually we will talk about how to organize our closet in a way that positively reflects who we are as Fashionistas. But for now I am asking you to not organize your closet for 7 days because I want you to see what you wear the most and what colors you gravitate towards. Hang all the clothes you wear most often in the middle, and next Tuesday we will revisit this.
Another symptom of an organized closet is money guilt. Believe it or not, the reason the Compulsive Buyer over-buys is the same reason you don’t buy as much. Money is a tough subject, but I believe, from the bottom of my heart, when we focus on the fear of failure, we are limiting our ability to achieve happiness and wealth. Trust me, there are ways to be fashionable and frugal. Once you know your style and you get excited it about it, you wont have to dislike shopping anymore.
I want you to get an empty shoebox this week and start cutting out magazine photos of styles you admire and like. Just collect them, don’t look at the price and don’t feel like you have to pick things in the same category. Everyday put at least one image in the box and next Tuesday we will discuss them.
3.) Is your closet outfit-coded?
Do you plan your outfits and hang them together? Be sure to read the answer from #2 if you are organized, because doing this allows you to utilize your closet better. Organizing your closet by outfit can be EXTREMLY healthy, as long as your closet doesn’t look like a department store warehouse with clothes that are unworn.
Check back next week to see steps 4-10. I know this is a slow process, but trust me, it will make you think about your closet and how it reflects back on you— and it will all be worth it in the long run!
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